Are you open to getting life advice from people?
Are you open to change?
Many people who struggle mentally or emotionally have a hard time asking for help. In this post we are going to examine the psychology of getting help.
This topic may be very inspiring and helpful for many people, but I don't know about for those who struggle with mental illness and/or personality disorders and cannot simply get out of their own heads. For people like myself,who don't always think clearly or have the best habits in life, it is not always advisable to act on impulse. It takes a ton of effort for me to NOT on act on my impulse to do whatever it is that I want to do at a particular moment. Unfortunately, how I feel cannot simply be ignored and what I want is in a constant state of flux. It can be extremely difficult to distinguish between those impulses that should and should not be acted upon. I actually envy those who are able to get "stuck" in a routine and feel fine with it.
When I decided to eliminate the snooze button on my morning cycle, I got up, all excited and promptly... ran into the wall. Head on, full force, all excited. You see, it usually takes me a long time to awake from my hibernation. So the very act of immediately leaping out of bed to start the day has become a dangerous new habit.
Bad Advice. Ignoring your negative thoughts and feelings. What exactly would you be getting out of all that force? However, people use this method already, but it's like making a beautiful cake that tastes awful. Better advise would be to listen, understand, and let go, so we can get what we truly want.
I don't trust her one bit. That's the impression she left on me after the first minute. She's only trying to look convincing and very simple, but she doesn't really help, and she's oversimplifying things, she's not hitting the right spot. She's not really trying to be smart or helpful, she's really trying to look smart and pragmatic, but I don't think she is.
I was peed off once and "took a drive" and there was a psychologist speaking on the radio who spoke about being a mama bear and your job as a parent is to make sure that your child can survive without you. That was her advice. Really that is what the doctor said and I was having trouble absorbing that concept as I noticed that I had left my house because my son was trying out being "13" and ruling the house with me playing bad cop and peeved that his father was playing "good cop" (again). I thought to myself why the heck isn't the kid in his room being punished and I am in the family room having a cup of well-deserved coffee? Something was wrong with this picture. I new I needed a better way to teach him advice on accomplishing goals.
I am in depression since I was 17 (32 now). I was a successful girl at school, had a good grade and masters degree. Then saw my country Turkey working against science (my job) and all people that were high up in careers had known some people and politicians. nothing is fair. I cant find job, even if i do (don’t wanna sound arrogant or snob but) my pay check is the same as a cashier that barely graduated from high school. This is not why I had all this education, crammed exams, didn’t live my youth and childhood. I'm now in severe depression and need help fixing my life. I am not looking for a job - developed a fear to it, went to shrinks and took drugs non helped me. I am killing myself watching TV, playing games and such. I wish someone who knows how Turkey works would help me, or someone from another country would offer me a job in their country because I definitely cant save myself. I am not happy here, don’t belong in this country. I love my family. Do u know what it feels like to kinda know what u gotta do but cant do it, feeling like chains around you? Ever been depressed chronically? I even tried using visualization to change my life and it did not work.
If you have an idea then act on it as you are the only one that can make it happen. Have the courage and know that you will succeed if and only if you take action and are committed. After years of telling myself ‘it will happen one day but not today’ I took action and began writing an idea which I’ve turned into a web series (A Throne Of Shadows) based on Shakespeare’s plays. However I would never have started my journey if i had stayed in my head! The five second rule is such a brilliant motivator.
I definitely tell the truth on how I am feeling. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I HAVE DEFINITELY CONVINCED MYSELF THAT I'M FINE NOT HAVING WHAT I WANT. What about wanting something for the right reasons? Where does this come into play? Does it even matter? For example...losing weight for your husband even if you feel fine the way you are. . . even if you're overweight?
People watching this might be wondering how, if they followed this advice, they could change their lives. I was wondering however, what would happen if this was taught in schools. Where kids were mentored and coached not to leave school and join a company, but to start one. To seek out mentors and give it a go. What would youth unemployment then look like? What would our society look like? What would our world look like?
Chris Haroun once said, "Every problem in the world will be solved with education".
But might we add... "with education and following the impulse to act". As Adeo Ressi says, the world is broken and people are asleep, we can either choose to wake up and become part of the cure, or be part of the problem. Mel touches here on the "how" to wake up. Thanks for highlighting this so eloquently.
